Comments on: If You Can’t Take The Heat

By: Surfside

Surfside — Mon, 15 Aug 2005 23:06:11 +0000

Well, if any law offices stop by here or Adam’s and happen to know you, happen to have your resume, happen to link your name to you Web site and somehow figure out your last name and address, then we’ll worry about it. Otherwise, you’re p***ing into the wind.

I’m telling you now, Melissa: “Go away.” Under your own definition, if you come back, we will view it as harassment. We don’t censure this site and welcome all opions, but this has really gone too far.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 15 Aug 2005 22:43:31 +0000

It links to me. It’s enough. It is an identifiable person. It doesn’t matter that it’s not known. If you tell someone to go away and they continue to come back, yes it is but you don’t know the law and continue to do so.

I can forgive if someone apologizes but there have been no apologies especially from Big Dog.

I am done

By: Surfside

Surfside — Mon, 15 Aug 2005 21:49:07 +0000

Seriously, though, Melissa. No one knows where you live, your marital status, how old you are, what your address is, what law school you attended or in which state you took the bar. No one even actually knows your name. For all we know, your first name isn’t even Melissa. You can hardly accuse anyone of defamation when no one could attach these comments to your actual person/career. It’s the anonymity of the Web.

Now, I never study for the bar — but I’m pretty sure the target needs to be identifiable before any charges of defamation can be considered.

Do you really consider someone commenting at your site that the Big Dog said “hi” constitutes harassment? That’s stretching quite far.

Apparently, it’s not in your nature to forgive and forget. You’ve gotten all the apology you’re going to get and have given nothing in return. OK. That’s how you want it. But, we have had enough. So, please cease and desist.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 15 Aug 2005 20:13:32 +0000

Yes that comment was a stereotype but it was a response to yours and to show you how below the line you were. Yes you can throw it in my face but this was after many many comments directed towards me. I was defending myself. It was to show you of your childishness. You still crossed a line and you have not said anything about that with comments about my mental health and professionalism. That crosses the line into bona fide defamation in that if other people read it and take it seriously then I might not get work. That is different than saying something about lack of thick skin and kindness and gentleness in being a nurse. Your lack of ability to see the difference astounds me. It is nothing about my skin or lack of it, it is about the level of lowness you are willing to sink for some petty bulls*** on the internet.

You were not welcome and you went anyway. You were blocked and you knew it was for you. Also, you solicited people to harass me on your behalf with “{tell them Big Dog said hi”

I’m not sure the distinction between the internet and how the law interprets that but if I had call blocked your number and you called me either through a pay phone or getting people to call from their houses with a “message from you,” you would be violating restraining orders and each call would be a count of harassment. So there you go.

Have a nice life.

By: Big Dog

Big Dog — Mon, 15 Aug 2005 05:16:09 +0000

And what do you know about toughness, you’re a nurse! I’d say that a nurse needs to be kinder and gentler than you are but I’ve given you the benefit of the doubt that you can be professional when you want to be. Unfortunately, you don’t have the maturity to give me the same respect.

I think this was a stereotype but I am willing to believe you meant it in a good way. In any event I have a higher threshold than that.

I did go to your site and read it. As far as I know, reading is not harassing, but I am not a lawyer. I told you and Adam that I would not write about it again. The comment had a reference, heartfelt, to wish your grandmother a happy birthday.

I wish you all the best in the world and I hope you passed the bar.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 15 Aug 2005 05:04:32 +0000

And yes we are but it is not silly to make jokes or comment on a mental illness by implying that they need to take their medication OR to comment on someone’s professional ability to do their job based on a skimming of a website. That is liable worthy and cruel and nowhere near anything I said about you. That is low and cruel and it’s a shame that you and Surfside went there. I would never do that to you. And yes you can comment if you want but once I ban you and have made it incredibly clear, you are then clearly harassing me by coming to my site or commenting over there and I can take action as I see fit. It’s like me saying don’t call and then you keep calling.

It will not be over for me until you apologize because making comments about my professional ability and mental stability is below the line of decent behavior. If you want to characterize it as getting your panties in a wad, go right ahead.

As for the banning, you are still banned. If you are going to make such rude comments about my professional ability by reading for two seconds that I took the bar and was depressed once, I am not willingly giving you access to anymore material. And (to reiterate) thanks for confirming that you went there again and any comments by you will be considered harassment and will be taken as such.

Yes you have clearly crossed a line with me. I told you that I never made any comments about your professional ability for nursing and never would and I meant it.

By: Big Dog

Big Dog — Mon, 15 Aug 2005 05:00:33 +0000

I must have misunderstood this sentence:
I pay for it and you can make medication jokes on your site as much as you want but I am not paying for you to do it on my site.
I thought you indicated I did it on your site. If that is not the case then I am sorry I misunderstood.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 15 Aug 2005 04:55:22 +0000

I never said you commented at my site. I said you went to my site, read personal things, and then extrapolated about very personal things like my mental health and my ability to practice law which is way lower than anything I ever did to you or would even contemplate. I never said you commented on my site.

By: Big Dog

Big Dog — Mon, 15 Aug 2005 04:35:36 +0000

I am not particularly bothered by not being able to go to Melissa’s site. I went there to see what she wrote but if it is a diary, I would rather not read it anyway.

Having said that let me just reiterate (which is a redundant word) I do not believe I ever commented at her site. I made all my comments here and at Adam’s so there it is.

By the way, a ban is kind of silly. If I wanted I could go there right now and comment, banned or not. But why bother, I have no interest. And yes, this is silly. I have a lot of fun with it because it is amazing how some people get their knickers in a wad over petty stuff. But I guess we are done. Melissa, tell your grandmother I said Happy Birthday (and I mean that).
UPDATE: I just went there and checked and I could not find a comment by me (cute dog though).

By: Adam

Adam — Mon, 15 Aug 2005 02:22:15 +0000

Look…if Palestine and Israel can start to work things out…Big Dog and Melissa surely can get somewhere…